Attachment Styles Across the Lifespan: The Connection Between Childhood and Adult Relationships

Written by
Clayre Sessoms
Published on
28 January 2022
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Attachment theory suggests that early experiences with caregivers play a crucial role in shaping an individual's interpersonal relationships and emotional well-being throughout their lifespan. The quality of attachment formed in infancy can have lasting effects on a child's self-esteem, self-reliance, social relationships, and mental health.Children who are securely attached as infants tend to develop stronger self-esteem, better self-reliance, and tend to be more independent. They also perform better in school, have successful social relationships, and experience less depression and anxiety as they grow older. On the other hand, failure to form secure attachments early in life can have a negative impact on behaviour later in childhood and throughout life.Children diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), conduct disorder (CD), or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) frequently display attachment problems, often due to early abuse, neglect, or trauma. Additionally, children adopted after the age of 6 months may have a higher risk of attachment problems.In some cases, children may develop attachment disorders such as reactive attachment disorder (RAD) or disinhibited social engagement disorder (DSED). RAD occurs when children do not form healthy bonds with caregivers, often resulting from early childhood neglect or abuse. Disinhibited social engagement disorder affects a child's ability to form bonds with others and often results from trauma, abandonment, abuse, or neglect.While attachment styles displayed in adulthood are not necessarily the same as those seen in infancy, early attachments can have a serious impact on later relationships. Adults who were securely attached in childhood tend to have good self-esteem, strong romantic relationships, and the ability to self-disclose to others. On the other hand, adults who experienced insecure attachments may struggle with intimacy, have difficulty forming close relationships, and struggle with emotional regulation.In conclusion, early attachment experiences can have a significant impact on an individual's interpersonal relationships and emotional well-being throughout their lifespan. By understanding the lasting impact of early attachment, individuals and practitioners can work to address and overcome any negative effects, promoting healthier and more fulfilling relationships throughout the lifespan.

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Clayre Sessoms

Clayre Sessoms (she/they) is a trans queer woman, Registered Psychotherapist (RP), Registered Canadian Art Therapist (RCAT), Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC), and Board Certified Art Therapist (ATR-BC). Her clinical work weaves together relational, experiential, and creative approaches rooted in social justice and liberatory practices. Clayre is the founder of Clayre Sessoms Psychotherapy, where she supports individuals and groups as they navigate burnout, grief, identity, and inner transformation. When she isn’t in session, she’s likely reading a book or exploring nature’s quiet paths.

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